Early Childhood Development: Your Helpful and Social 5 Year Old

Your five-year-old is coming into their own and soaking up everything like a sponge! They might enjoy potty humor and love to tell wild, imaginative stories, but they also want to contribute in real ways to your family. Whether they’re following your instructions on how to set the table or pulling weeds from the garden, they love to help out in meaningful ways.

Group of preschooler children looking down into camera


Your five year old is coming into their own and soaking up everything like a sponge! They might enjoy potty humor and love to tell wild, imaginative stories, but they also want to contribute in real ways to your family. Whether they’re following your instructions on how to set the table or pulling weeds from the garden, they love to help out in meaningful ways.

Early Childhood Development: Your 5 Year Old Preschooler and What to Expect


Vocabulary Development


Your child’s vocabulary is still growing and growing! On average, a five year old will know roughly 2,000 words.(2) The back-and-forth conversations are also getting longer, and typically five-year-olds say sentences that are at least five words long.(2) And boy do five year olds love to share their opinions!(1) Ask them questions, listen closely to their thoughtful explanations, and encourage them to tell stories. At this age, children also have longer attention spans, so they can follow multi-step instructions and do more complex projects.(1)


Motor Skills Development


Your five-year-old may have impressive gross motor skills! They’ll jump and climb, run and dance. You may find they’re interested in doing gymnastics, karate or ballet.(7) They’re also developing fine motor skills by using scissors, practicing writing their name, and drawing shapes.(7)


Whiney Behavior


If you have a five year old, you’ve certainly heard them whine. It’s an annoying behavior, but also completely normal at this development stage.(7) Whining peaks between ages 2 and 4, but your five year old may also whine when they’re expressing, “I need you and your help.”(7) Consider whether your child is tired, stressed, hungry, uncomfortable, or cranky.(7) It may also be a signal that they need more connection.


Early Childhood Development: 5 Year Old Milestones


Social/Emotional Checklist(3)

  • Knows how to follow rules and take turns when playing with other children

  • Can do simple chores like matching socks when sorting the laundry

  • Likes to sing, dance, or act for you

  • Wants to be liked and tries to please their friends(4)

  • Demonstrates independence(4)

  • Follows rules (most of the time)(4)



Language/Communication Checklist(3)

  • After you read or tell a story to them, can answer simple questions about it

  • Tells stories with at least two events

  • Has conversations with more than three back-and-forth exchanges

  • Recognizes or says simple rhymes, like cat and rat

  • Uses the future tense(4)

  • Talk about people by their relationship to others, like “Melissa’s mom” or “Justin’s cat”(4)

  • Understands the relationship between people and objects, such as “the girl who is kicking the ball”(4)


Movement and Physical Development Checklist(3)

  • Can hop on one foot

  • Able to button some buttons

  • Can swing, climb, do somersaults, and maybe skip(4)

  • Toilet trained, though they may still wet the bed occasionally(4)

  • Eats with a fork and spoon(4)

  • Is able to dress/undress themselves(4)



Cognitive Checklist(3)

  • Can write some of the letters in their name

  • Recognizes most of the letters in the alphabet 4)

  • Knows their address and phone number by heart(4)

  • Can draw people with a head, body, arms and legs(4)

  • Can count to 10

  • When you point to numbers between 1 and 5, can name some of them

  • Uses words to show an understanding of time, like “yesterday” or “night”

  • Knows what basic household objects are used for(4)

  • Can focus for 5 to 10 minutes on an activity like arts and crafts, story time, or another non-screen activity

  • Knows their colors and directional words like “over” or “next to”(2)

  • Follows instructions with three or fewer steps like, “Grab your lunch, put on your coat, and wait by the door”(2)



What You Can Do to Encourage Healthy Development in Your 5 Year Old


Give Your Child Meaningful Tasks


Preschoolers love to be helpful. They enjoy feeling like they’re contributing in a meaningful way. Give your child simple household chores to build their self-esteem and teach cooperation and responsibility.(5) Let them set the table, bring in the newspaper, water the flowers, or do other age-appropriate chores around the house.


Encourage Movement


Recreational sports are a great way for your child to learn how to be a good sport, play fairly, cooperate with teammates, and take turns. (5) Even if your child isn’t signed up for team sports, encourage them to move! Preschoolers are recommended to get at least three hours of physical activity per day.(6)


Play Together


While recreational sports are a fun way to move, make friends, and learn how to play on a team, they don’t replace the importance of playing with you! Spending quality time together will allow you to bond and give your child a chance to express their thoughts and share their feelings with you.(5) And don’t forget that playtime is an excellent sign to practice learning, too! When you’re at the park or talking a walk around your neighborhood, ask your child to practice reading signs to you! Or if you’re playing hopscotch, ask your child to draw the numbers with sidewalk chalk.


Set up Play Dates With Friends


By the time they’re five years old, children show an interest in being social, interacting with other children, and communicating back and forth with others.(7) But even outgoing, gregarious children can sometimes feel shy in new or uncertain situations. Setting up play dates before your child goes to kindergarten can help ease the transition to school.




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Each step of the way, you have the opportunity to help your child learn and grow. Subscribe to my newsletter for more helpful parenting tips, and don’t miss the other blogs in the infant and early childhood development series!

References

  1. https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/on-parenting/inside-the-mind-of-5-year-old-boys/2018/10/09/57ed74a4-c673-11e8-b1ed-1d2d65b86d0c_story.html

  2. https://www.verywellfamily.com/5-year-old-developmental-milestones-620713

  3. https://www.cdc.gov/ncbddd/actearly/milestones/milestones-5yr.html

  4. https://myhealth.alberta.ca/Health/Pages/conditions.aspx?hwid=ue5316

  5. https://raisingchildren.net.au/school-age/development/development-tracker/5-6-years

  6. https://www.nhs.uk/live-well/exercise/exercise-guidelines/physical-activity-guidelines-children-under-five-years/

  7. https://www.parents.com/kids/development/behavioral/developmental-milestones-age-five/

  8. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/joyful-parenting/201712/5-great-ways-respond-kids-whining

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Early Childhood Development: Your Inquisitive and Active 4 Year Old

You may be excited to spend time with your four-year-old because they’re just so darn fun! Whether you’re doing art projects together, playing age-appropriate games, or enjoying outdoor pastimes like catch, you’ve noticed how active, chatty, and interested in the world your four-year-old is.

Group of kids pulling rope


You may be excited to spend time with your four-year-old because they’re just so darn fun! Whether you’re doing art projects together, playing age-appropriate games, or enjoying outdoor pastimes like catch, you’ve noticed how active, chatty, and interested in the world your four-year-old is.



Early Childhood Development: Your 4 Year Old Preschooler and What to Expect


Vocabulary Development


You may have noticed that your child loves to talk! Some children are naturally chatty and enjoy having back-and-forth conversations or telling stories.(1) You might find your conversations are getting more interesting (and funny!) as well, as on average, a four-year-old will know roughly 1,500 words!(6) Your exchanges may include longer, more complicated and varied phrases, which is fun for both of you!

Motor Skills Development


As your child is growing, their motor skills are improving, so they can be more active than ever. Running, jumping and climbing might be favorite things to do at the playground or park! You may notice they’re using their hands when they talk, gesturing, or making noises to express themselves.(5) Skills like walking down steps, kicking a ball, playing catch, balancing on one foot, running and jumping have become easier.(5) Their fine motor skills, like cutting (with child-safe scissors) and writing their name, are also improving.(5)

Growing Curiosity About the Body


Your child is also likely asking endless questions, some which may make you uncomfortable. It’s normal and common for preschoolers to ask questions like, “Where do babies come from?” or ask about and touch their genital area.(1) Playing doctor with other children their age where they look at each other’s genitals might seem alarming to parents, but it’s developmentally normal.(1) (This should not happen with older children.) Facilitate your child’s learning in an age-appropriate way, like with a book on the body that’s written for pre-schoolers.(1)

As for tough questions about the body or topics you might deem inappropriate (like how babies are made), it’s important you answer their questions calmly and matter-of-factly.(1)



Early Childhood Development: 4-Year-Old Milestones

Social/Emotional Checklist(3)

  • Offers comfort when someone is sad or hurt

  • Enjoys being a “helper”

  • Wants to please and be like his or her friends(4)

  • Knows how to modify their behavior based on the situation (uses their “inside voice” in a place of worship or library, for example)

  • May be eagerly cooperative at times and demanding at other times(4)

  • Avoids danger

  • Asks to play with other children

  • Plays pretend

  • Has developed a sense of their gender identity(1)

Language/Communication Checklist(3)

  • Can answer simple questions such as “What is a lunch box for?”

  • Will share at least one thing that happened during the day such as, “I played with Jeremy”

  • Can string together a sentence of four or more words

  • Has back-and-forth conversations(2)

  • When they talk, a stranger can understand what they’re saying (most of the time)

  • Can sing along to a few words of a song, or memorize and recite a few words of a story or rhyme  (2)

  • Knows between 1000 to 2000 words(2)

Movement and Physical Development Checklist(3)

  • Is able to hold a pencil or crayon between finger and thumb as opposed to a fist

  • Prints some letters(4)

  • Can copy geometric patterns, such as a triangle(4)

  • Can serve himself some food or water with adult supervision

  • Is able to unbutton some buttons on clothing and catch a large ball the majority of the time

  • Swings, climbs, hops, somersaults, and can stand on one foot for 10 seconds or longer(4)

Cognitive Checklist(3)

  • Follows multi-step directions (for example, when instructed, is able to pick up their toys, put them away in their toy bin, and pick out a book to read together)(2)

  • Can draw a person with three or more body parts

  • Is able to identify colors, shapes, numbers, and letters (2)

  • Can count to ten(4)

  • Can recall big parts of a simple story they’re told or read(2)

  • Knows what comes next in a story they know well

  • Can make predictions about what comes next in an unfamiliar story(2)

  • Is beginning to understand the concept of time(2)

  • Has a vivid imagination(2)



What You Can Do to Encourage Healthy Development in Your 4-Year-Old

Make Time for Play


Preschoolers learn so much through fun and games. Check out this blog post on the different types of play in early childhood and how they encourage your preschooler’s development! Play deprivation in early childhood has been linked to depression, reduced self-control, shallower and more fragile relationships, a propensity for addiction, and difficulty adapting to change later in life.(7) I can’t stress enough how vital play is to your child’s well being! Making time for arts and crafts, dress-up, dancing, imaginary play or outdoor play has tremendous benefits for your child.

Be Active Together


Preschoolers should spend at least 3 hours a day doing some kind of physical activity.(8) Yes, three hours! It may sound like a lot, but your four-year-old needs to burn all their pent up energy and grow their muscle strength! Playing on the playground, running in the backyard or at the park, or playing children’s games like “Duck, Duck, Goose” are great ways to bond with your child and help them (and you!) be active.

Know When to React Neutrally


Is your preschooler talking about having a “boyfriend” or a “girlfriend” at school? This might seem alarming to parents, but it’s developmentally normal.(1) Preschoolers don’t attach the same meaning to “boyfriend” or “girlfriend” that adults do, so it’s best to react to these types of declarations in a neutral way (not encouraging it but not showing concern, either).

Remember Their Development Stage


There are many wonderful things about preschoolers. But they can also be demanding, selfish, moody, and try your patience (regularly!). Remember that you’re not alone if your child exerts independence in ways that are frustrating, fights with siblings, has difficult habits (like food refusal) or behaves aggressively toward family members when they’re being moody.(9) 



Every Stage Comes With Joys and Challenges


Each step of the way, you have the opportunity to help your child learn and grow. Subscribe to my newsletter for more helpful parenting tips, and don’t miss the other blogs in the infant and early childhood development series!  

References

  1. https://www.hopkinsallchildrens.org/patients-families/health-library/healthdocnew/understanding-early-sexual-development

  2. https://www.verywellfamily.com/4-year-old-developmental-milestones-2764713

  3. https://www.cdc.gov/ncbddd/actearly/milestones/milestones-4yr.html

  4. https://www.healthychildren.org/English/ages-stages/preschool/Pages/Developmental-Milestones-4-to-5-Year-Olds.aspx

  5. https://raisingchildren.net.au/preschoolers/development/development-tracker/4-5-years

  6. https://www.scholastic.com/parents/family-life/social-emotional-learning/development-milestones/what-your-child-should-know-age-4.html

  7. https://www.washingtonpost.com/education/2021/03/17/play-deprivation-during-pandemic-is-big-problem-for-kids/

  8. https://www.nhs.uk/live-well/exercise/exercise-guidelines/physical-activity-guidelines-children-under-five-years/

  9. https://www.choc.org/primary-care/ages-stages/4-to-5-years/

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